I'm scared of falling in love again

Yeah...very afraid!

I just have to admit it to myself. I'm scared of falling in love.

Most people would say I'm too young to know what love is, afterall I'm only eighteen, but I believe the lessons and experiences start from the teenage years.

I admire the whites for a lot of things which includes giving freedom to their offspring to go out and know what life is like out there. Rich or poor...the kids start dating at a very young age and most of them even leave home to get independent at eighteen.

Truth be told, most African kids too get independent at a rather younger age, owing to the fact that their parents struggle to provide for the family;  or the kids are orphaned; or some other reason, and then the kids are pushed out to experience the world at a rather younger age and they hustle really hard just to feed themselves.

5 TIPS TO STUDYING EFFECTIVELY

Everyone is different. Different methods work for different people; the following are only suggestions on improving your current studying techniques.

1. Make a Study Plan: Time is precious. Nobody is more aware of this than the student who hasn’t studied a thing until the night before an exam. By then, of course, it might be too late. The key to breaking the cycle of cramming for tests is to think ahead and create an effective study plan. Not only will this help you get organised and make the most of your time, it’ll also put your mind at ease and eliminate that nasty feeling you get when you walk into an exam knowing that you’re not at all prepared. As the old saying goes, "fail to prepare and be prepared to fail".

2017 BUDGET / GOALS

I promised on my previous post to share an update on my 2017 Budget / Goals. Well, i recently, painfully misplaced my dear notepad, and it contains my written 2017 Goals and Budget.

But, i'd try to share the ones i remember below. Let's see.

THE GOOD NEWS AND THE BAD ONE!

I guess Oprah prays a lot, so i had to upload a gif of her...

Yeah i know...i know that i've been so unfaithful.
I started blogging because i wanted to learn  more about web programming and the likes, and later i got to know that you could make money from it and i thought "THAT'S NOT BAHHHD".

A RELATIONSHIP TURNED SOUR

I was on my way to my-to-be school (university). I recently gained admission and was going for registration. I went with big bro...you might be curious as to why i didn't go on my own, afterall i'm a 'Big Girl' or 'Big Lady'??? Well, that's a story for another day.

I was kinda thinking about the kinda girl i've been morally (though i do have minor clashes with my Parents at times), i was thinking about how i've been staying at the right path and not straying away when...i remembered, remembered how his heart got shattered.

I would refer to him as KB or BK...KB - so he can be imagined as a social, cool, hot, bad guy and BK - imagined as a nice, quiet, caring, loving guy.

He is my friend's cousin, and he is also a very close friend of mine...at least he used to be.

I recall how we met...my friend's mum's shop is beside my mum's. And we live close to the shop. So, whenever my friend (Let's call her Vivi) comes from her home, she and her brothers will come to my house and we will play around together.

Backdate to 8years ago-
There was this hot afternoon, i was in the room watching a Korean movie (i have a crush on interesting korean 'movies') when Vivi came in with one of her brothers and a new guy. I was putting on a singlet and its (what we call follow-come) shorts. We chatted and played.


Later, while playing we got introduced and became closer friends.
Now, fast-forward to about 8 years later, we are teenagers already, everyone is dating this person or that person, i'm the only one standing out.

I'm most closer to BK...he talks with his gf on phone for two hours (only God knows what they talk about). After they close from school, he comes back and we all talk about the day's adventure.

I watched as their relationship blossomed;
Cute, handsome, hot, caring. nice guys that other girls wanted to have to themselves asked me out one after the other, but relationships just isn't my thing.

I would ask KB about her at times, and he seemed happy as ever, then it started....

I liked the way BK daringly loved and cared for her, but i wasn't ready to be committed in a relationship...i just liked the freedom of singledom. Since i clocked 12 till present, my friends/mates have been going in and out of relationships, and i was one of the unique ones, the NDSB (Never Dated Since Birth) and i was proud of myself.

Anyways, i started crushing on KBK, he was caring and what any girl would want for herself, and I once told Vivi, and one other friend that i had a crush on him and i could seduce and get him if i wanted to, but i wasn't one to break a fellow girl's heart. Actually...i wasn't one to do that, but she was one to break a guy's heart.

She had to transfer to another high school, but it wasn't far from her previous one...maybe, she was waiting for that moment. She told BK that she couldn't do it any more. KB came back from school that day, and we had been having some minor issues (not related to the crushing), i could sense that he was not ok, then my lil sis asked what happened and i heard his older cousin (Vivi's bro) playfully say that his gf broke his heart, it was funny and we laughed.

Some days later, we reconciled and resolved the issues, we talked about his ex, and he said he had moved on from her...cool, i thought.

Somehow, he mistakenly found out about the crush, it happened when i mistakenly sent him a message that was meant for one friend's ex-boyfriend that was asking me out.

I felt like a fool...how could i have mistakenly selected his number, that was my most embarassing situation as a teenager.

Later on, we started avoiding each other, or maybe i was the one avoiding him, and my other friend started telling me that he wanted to go out with me. It was kinda funny and strange. I avoided the topic whenever we talked and pretended i never had a crush on him, but he was only falling harder.

Almost Christmas, mum said we were traveling for my uncle's wedding and to spend christmas with her parents, particularly her father, my grandfather which i hadn't seen since birth. Anyways, we traveled and i chatted with KB all through the journey, told him how i saw the Niger River for the first time (Note: my grandparents reside at Niger State).

On 26th of December, he popped the question and asked me out, it was weird and i immediately rejected him, my friend called minutes later and told my how crazy i was to reject a guy i liked, he asked again and again until the 28th of December when i finally said yes!!!

We returned back to Lagos on the 31st of December, and i rushed to see him first.
It was fun dating him, and i kept crushing on him. But did i really like him???

We sent text messages, sat down together. Everyday after i close from work, i would rush to see him instead of helping my mom to cook at home or go to rest.

Then the time came, i was to write my final high school exams, i needed time to study, i didn't want any distractions, i started studying and we rarely saw each other. I didn't feel like i really liked him, i just had a crush on him, that's all, nothing serious, maybe i liked him because he treated his girlfriend so well.

It was almost d-day, valentine's day, February 14th.
It was February 13th, a Sunday, i didn't go to see him, i sent a message, apologizing and telling him that i needed space, that we needed to break up, that i didn't mind if he dated other girls, that we could remain friends, and that maybe we could get back together if I still wanted after my exams.
I can't imagine how he felt on the said day, i had shattered a broken heart. We didn't see for days after then, on the day, we met and it was awkward.

It was long before he finally forgave me, though we are friends now, i'm sure when he sees me, the memory comes rushing, cos at times, he just doesn't want to talk to me.

Now the thing is, having a crush on someone and liking someone, could someone please decipher the difference, because most teenagers out there still think having a crush on someone is still the same as really liking someone. I just don't get it.

IS SHE DESPERATE, INSECURE, IGNORANT OR JUST HAVING FUN???

So, i have this female friend, a few months older than i am.

She is in 'relationships'...(not in 'a relationship'), and what do i mean by that?

She is going out with 9 guys currently...not new to you?

In a long distance relationship with three of them,

In an online/social media relationship with two of them,

and the rest stay close to her!

She has always found herself in tough situations. An example was a sunday, after i came back from church and finished all i knew i necessarily had to do, she came to my house, and we strolled outside the compound. Then she saw one of her boyfriends, an igbo guy, across the road coming towards her, she sighted another yoruba boyfriend standing almost close to us, when the igbo boyfriend got to our side, after exchanging pleasantries, i looked over and saw the curiosity on the face of the yoruba boyfriend. He was probably thinking, 'who is that guy getting all over my gf???'

BUHARI 'A NEW BEGINNING'

I'm not a fan of news (i.e. Government, History, Political and others).

But the other day, i remember reading a novel late at night after others, except my uncle had gone to bed, i didn't want to put off the TV, unless, i didn't want to achieve my aim of finishing "Americanah by Chimamanda N. A" that night.

AM I THE ONLY ONE???

Am I the only one with insecurities?

Am I the only one who believes in God but doubts at times?

Am I the only one who knows and believes that Heaven helps only those who help themselves?

Am I the only one who believes that God neglects people?

Am I the only who believes in God’s existence and non-existence?

Am I the only one who feels really guilt for never observing a quiet time with God?

Am I the only one who believes God never answers prayers when he answers 70% of the time?

Am I the only one who believes that I don’t have to save a soul, observe a quiet time, act holier-than-thou, and be a Triple-S (Spiritual Super Star) to make Heaven?

FORBIDDEN - Anita's Story (Part 2)

 

For the previous part, Click - FORBIDDEN - Anita's Story (Part 1)
 

The sky was too cloudy on this particular day, which made Anita really think if she was going to go with her regular day-to-day routine. She thought to herself why it had to be today of all days that the sky had to let down the grudges and anger it had been holding for too long.

It’s going to be a long day, she thought. But why today? Then she thought of her previous day encounters with the young man she had met while working at her part-time job. The thoughts of his soft and soothing words after the hard day’s work made her blush.

GUIDE TO GROWING LONG, BLACK AFRO HAIR

 

I suppose the question on all of your minds is simply, how do I grow my natural afro hair long? By natural I mean your natural hair, long or short, broken or recently cut by a scissor happy hair dresser (can a get a amen?). Well one things for certain heat damaged, thinning hair is never going to be in fashion so better get these locks growing healthily. In order to help you on your journey to long flowing hair, compiled below are 10 Steps on How to Grow Your Natural Hair. Scroll on!!!

 Step One: What’s wrong with my hair?
First things first, to grow your hair long we need to identify; what is wrong with it? When hair appears to 'stop growing' its not because your hair follicles had a temper tantrum and decided enough is enough. It's caused by breakage of the ends of the hair meaning your hair appears to not be growing. Hair is growing all the time, the key is to preserve the ends so we can see the growth. Any number of factors can cause breakage, the most common being excessive heat use, lack of moisture, rough handling and hairstyles with too much tension.

PEN WITH OWNER'S NAME TAG???

Loool...who remembers something similar to this???
Shows how old you are!!!

If you attended a Government School in Nigeria...you would understand more of this.
One of the petty pen-security methods in High School.
#areyouthere?

Please share your pen-security experiences below in the comment section!!!

ENTERING HOME AFTER MOM HAS CLEANED UP!!!

Lmao...
This CUTE puppy explains it all!!!

FORBIDDEN - Anita's Story (Part 1)

On the outskirts of Ikeja, Lagos laid one of the infamous, but rather famous schools in the City of Lagos, His Majesty International College, which served as an educational center for young teenagers who were yet inconclusive on the insights of life, and had yet to experience the life the average people referred to as “The Life of the Targets”.

His Majesty International College was known widely for its “outer and inner beauty and eminence”, at least it was known for that before its Founder, Mrs. Laura Brown passed away. Only then did the once impending corruption resurface.

The new owner, Mr. Damian Ihenna was known as an uptight, yet corrupt leader. He was known for his greed in financial circumstances; a never contented man who could murder anyone who got in his way, just to lay his filthy hands on already filthy money. Though he was ordained an Elder in church just to make him regain his senses and eradicate his greed, that didn’t help at all, his greed only worsened to the extent of his fighting over finances in church.

FACTS YOU DID NOT KNOW ABOUT EMMANUELLA FROM MARK ANGEL COMEDY

 

I'm sure you've met or heard of Comedienne Emmanuella (THIS IS NOT MY REAL FACE OOH...), who features in Mark Angel Comedy. I recently went through her biography and i found out thinks i never knew about her.

1.  Her Full Name is Emmanuella Samuel: I only know her as "This Is Not My Real Face Ooh"

2. She first gained fame after appearing in the Mark Angel Comedy video "My Real Face.": I'm sure most of you know this.

JUSTIN BIEBER PERFORMS IN NIGERIA AND VISITS ME!!!

Yeah...he did

MY THOUGHTS IMMEDIATELY I HEARD AND READ THAT MARK ZUCKERBERG VISITED NIGERIA

 

I was going through the internet for recent news when a story caught my attention - (Founder of Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg visits Nigeria), with the picture below tagged...

4 Ways To Use Beer For Thicker Natural Hair

Beer contains 4 to 6% alcohol and is the third most consumed drink in the world following water and tea. Apart from being an enjoyable beverage, beer is also a popular hair care product, providing numerous benefits to hair and skin. However, only a handful of people know that beer has loads of benefits for the hair if used in the right way. One of the many advantages of beer comes in the form of inducing hair growth. For those who are looking towards triggering hair growth, there is nothing better than adhering to this option, beer for hair growth. It is safe, simple to use as well as free from all kinds of side effects.

Along with vitamin B, the proteins found in malt and hops (which are active ingredients of beer) are said to repair damaged hair. The sucrose and maltose sugars present in beer tighten and strengthen hair cuticles for enhanced shine. The popular beverage is known to even help in controlling dry scalp along with improving the luster and quality of hair.

Is beer good for hair growth? To know the perfect way to use as well as the benefits associated with it, the guide below will help you out. All you need to do is follow it on a strict routine and see the positive results it gives you.

8 Ways To Detangle Your Hair And Shed Less Hair

Detangling is a crucial part of all hair care. Detangling is simply using a hair-care tool to comb or brush through your hair. This helps to remove tangles and shed hairs that can cause matting, knots, and ultimately, breakage. Detangling can also help with washing the hair, styling the hair, and distributing products throughout the hair.

Many naturals have hair growth goals, but are struggling with retaining length. Learning to properly detangle natural hair will ensure that you are not just breaking it off. It will also help with overall healthy hair care, as improper detangling can result in split ends and damaged cuticles. 

Here are some tips on detangling your hair without ripping it out:

Reasons Why You Have Stunted / Slow Hair Growth

Many people crave healthy, thick, and long hair, and it is quite depressing when one’s hair stops growing. Unless your hair is damaged due to health issues or any chemical reactions, it should continue to grow.

Have you been trying to grow your hair longer for years, but it just seems to stop getting longer at a certain length? Have you tried every product possible to grow your hair faster but it’s just stalled out and stop growing at a particular point for no apparent reason? If your hair breaks off at an equal or higher rate than it grows, you’ll never see any length gains. Hair may show stagnant or negative growth rates for a number of reasons. Here is a compilation of some reasons why your might have stopped growing and some tips to help out.

Hair Breakage: While it might seem that your hair is not growing, in reality, this could actually be due to the fact that there is hair breakage once it reaches a certain length. Bleaching, showering, brushing, and roughly handling one’s hair can lead to dryness and brittleness, which in turn cause hair breakage. Your hair grows half an inch every month, and if it breaks off at the same rate, there will be little or no growth at all. This is why it appears that your hair has stopped growing.

7 Home Remedies for Regaining the Firmness of Saggy Breasts

 

Breast sagging is a natural process that happens with age wherein the breasts lose their suppleness and elasticity. Sagging breast (ptosis) is a common complaint for many women and this occurs in part because of  a loss of elasticity due to rapid weight loss, childbirth, wearing the incorrect bra size and the effects of gravity.

Breasts consist of fatty tissue and milk ducts placed atop the pectoral muscles that support them, and by doing chest exercises to build up the “pecs” breasts can receive the lift and support they need.

Many women feel their breasts have gone past the point of no return as it pertains to the downward shift of their breasts, but there is really no need to worry because there are several home remedies for regaining the firmness of saggy breasts, including regular pectoral exercises, olive oil massaging, ice massaging, cucumber and egg mask, vegetable oils and essential oils in different forms.